[双语] 做个听得懂男人话的聪明女人

Its no secret that men and women communicate differently--but is there really no way to translate Mars talk to Venus speak? Ready for a practice run? Here are five common communication problems in relationships.

人人都知道男人和女人的表达方式不同——但真的没有办法让“金星”听懂“火星”的话吗？准备练习一下吗？这里有五种在伴侣关系中经常出现的交流问题。

男人说：Uh huh. Right. Yeah. 嗯哼。对。是的。

女人的理解：He couldn be less interested in what Im saying. 他对我说的事情一点都不感兴趣。

男人本意：I want to hear your story, but its been 10 minutes and still no punch line. 我想听你的故事，但十分钟过去了你还是没说出个所以然来。

Men don process information in the lengthy way that women do, so telling him a story in the drawn-out way you would to one of your girlfriends isn going to work. In short, cut to the chase and youll get more of a reaction.

女人处理的信息冗长，而男人不是这样，所以像跟你的姐妹淘闲聊那样没完没了地讲给他听是行不通的。总之，说话直截了当，你会得到更多回应。

男人说：Its not a big deal. 没什么大不了的。

女人的理解：How trivial. （他认为）这是小事！

男人本意：Lets not dwell on it. 我们不要老想它了。

Men come from the school of suck-it-up, while women tend to need more reassurance if something is bothering them.

男人们习惯于默默承受，而女人如果碰到什么事烦扰她们，往往需要更多安慰。

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